04 :: I’ll speak about empathy within me.

I think in cases like this people need to come forth and admit imperfection. I am a person far from perfect. I do not preach perfection within myself and I recognise issues within myself.

With me, I am someone who is able to use empathy when necessary.
I am able to listen to ones problem and offer help.
My problem is that I am selective with it.
Similarly to my previous answer, I practice treating someone the same way they treat me.
I have no empathy to offer someone who in my eyes has done nothing for me to deserve it.
I am quick to change my judgement of someone. You will not earn neither my sympathy or empathy if you can not or have not ever once reciprocated.

If you are self-absorbed, you do not deserve empathy.
That is what I stand by, strongly. I never see myself straying from this particular concept of mine, be it considered a virtue or vice - I accept criticism of it though I argue in its defense strongly.

Being someones doormat and personal shoulder is tiring. Especially when that person is one to turn away when you need it most.

Fun fact, my previous banner on RV, the one of
“I told you how my dad left me”, is actually something similar to what I am saying.
It was said to me by someone who SA’d me. I was spending time with another following the event of them doing that to me, and they were waiting for that one slip-up. For one thing I do wrong so they can sob and cast a curtain over what they have done.

People will hurt you bad. And I mean bad, bad. And once you do something miniscule in comparison, they are able to finally compare the two problems and somehow be able to make them seem equal in wrong.

Guilt-tripping me does not work. I genuinely do not care.
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I’m not sure exactly what the correct conclusion to how I deal with empathy is. Is it something I turn on and off? I don’t know.

I just do not enjoy pretending to care about someones problems or issues if they have wronged me in worser ways.

I can not remember a lot of instances of this. As you know, my memory has been horrid. I have been staying up late reading old messages with people and intaking as much media as possible to simply remember things of my past.

I can say for certain that those who have hurt you will also often vent to you after hurting you to trigger the empathy within you in hopes of you caving in to emotion and helping them.
After all, how could you be mad at them when their life has been oh, so tragic? You must be a monster to do such thing.

Empathy is weaponised. Empathy is faked. Empathy is diminishing within this generation and I see it daily.
“Womp womp”
“The world keeps spinning”
And the issue is something serious.